Fight Like A Girl

     Hi lovelies! So I know this doesn't have anything to do with make up or fashion but I really wanted to share something that I care deeply about. Something that I've been thinking about for awhile now and was inspired by a conversation with two 15 year olds and a book. 

         I recently began reading a book called Fight Like a Girl by Lisa Bevere. I was browsing the Christian book section at Barnes and Noble and I came across this book, read the back, and decided to give it a try. So far, it has been such a wonderful and insightful book. I strongly recommend it to any woman looking for a good book. Not only was I inspired by this book but I was also inspired by talking with my sister and her friend one night. They're going to be freshmen in high school and they were informing me on all of the dirt that's happening currently and let me tell you… I was thoroughly surprised. I was horrified at the things the young girls now a days are doing. It saddened me so much to think that these young girls have to degrade themselves and act in a certain way to get the attention from these young boys. Looking back at when I was her age, I didn't even know what the stuff was that they were telling me. I was so young, I still am young but looking at them now, I see two young girls embarking on a 4 year journey through happy, sad, rough, emotional, and exciting times and I don't want them to fall down the stereotypical path of high school. That all being said, this is how the book ties in with my conversation. 

   Today, there's so much negativity among women. "She's too sexual. She's not pretty enough. She isn't smart enough. She doesn't belong here." And it's not just young women, its all ages of women. You see and hear more and more about young girls sending inappropriate photos to get a boys attention or being tempted into doing something they really don't want to do but think they need to do in order to fit in. You see so much competition. Why can't we all just realize that we're all women. We all have the same parts. No, they don't all look the same but they are there and instead of constantly bringing other women down, why can't we bring each other up? 

In the book Fight Like a Girl, Lisa Bevere says…

"Why are the majority of women in agreement with their general disgust and frustration with females? I've even seen it celebrated: "You don't like women? Great, neither do I!" As if this should make us all feel somehow safe that we are surrounded by women who don't like women. Granted, we usually like the individual women present, but we wrestle with the concept of women as a whole."

I love how Lisa portrays this concept in her book. She admits that she's gone through this same process as many other women have. You don't feel alone or like it's the end of the world or as if God is never going to forgive you. 

She also says…

"What could possibly cause a large portion of the female populace to reject their own gender? I have seen this everywhere I travel, and the fallout is huge. Unfortunately, many of us have not been taught an appreciation for who we are as women. It is so surprising, then, that we would distance ourselves from the role if we've never possessed a true understanding of what it is to be a woman. This lack of awareness of feminine value needs to be confronted in almost every realm of life if we are to see a turnaround. God is awakening our individuality to enable us to realize what we can become as daughters, wives, mothers, sisters, leaders, and friends. Women have significant contributions to make to their unique spheres of influence, and these will never fully be realized with an underlying distaste for our gender."

Even I have to admit that I've felt like this a certain points in my life. I think every woman has but why is it that it has to constantly continue and grow into a huge hatred. We as women should stick together and help each other out. Not wish we were men just because "we get along better" with them. You're girlfriends bring something into your life that no man could ever begin to understand. We need to appreciate each other and remember that we all have a story. A story that makes us who we are and no woman is better than the next.

Another thing that is bothersome is that fact that women and girls think they need to degrade themselves to catch the attention of a male. It truly saddens me because I know that every girl has bright mind and kind heart to offer, they just choose to hide it. Why hide it? What is so scary about being smart, classy, and kind-hearted? The right man will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and waiting for that is the best thing you can do for yourself. Trust me. There are wonderful guys out there, I know for a fact. Stop exposing your body, stop hiding being the make up, stop pretending you don't have a brain, stop trying to be something your not! God made you to be you and he loves you more than anything in this world. 

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful. I know that full well." Pslam 139:14

When you stop trying to attract the wrong attention, you find out that God really did make someone special for you to spend the rest of your life with. You see beyond the physical aspects and see the wonderful attributes you and the other person obtain. The wonderful characteristics God blessed you with to share with the world.

Lisa says…

"You are a vital part of God's answer for humanity. Our heavenly father has specifically formed you to do a task no other woman can accomplish in our space and time. ...Women are incredibly valuable, but often we have failed to express this to one another." 

I know this is a long post but if you read the whole thing, I do greatly appreciate it. All I want is to help change some young girls life and help her to appreciate her mind, body, and soul. I just want to help inspire every girl to love themselves and be confident in who they are because no matter what, you have something special to offer to the world.

xoxo, tori

Fight Like a Girl by Lisa Bevere 

"At last, Adam exclaimed. She is part of my own flesh and bone! She will be called 'woman,' because she was taken out of a man." Genesis 2:23

"Woman was made to be an answer. She was the treasure for whom Adam searched-God's perfect creation. When she loves she is the oil that anoints and makes life run smoothly. When she is free she is not the weaker link; she is the ruby pendant suspended by a length of gold."